Day Seventeen - And the Winner Is...

Day Seventeen - And the Winner Is...

A couple of years ago the Golden State Warriors beat out 29 other teams to win their first NBA championship in 40 years. For the 2014-2015 season, they were the winners and the other teams were quite simply the losers. As an American icon once more bluntly said, “If you ain’t first, you are last.”
When you have a disagreement with your spouse, is this how

Day Sixteen - Except by Divine Revelation

Day Sixteen - Except by Divine Revelation

One of the definitions offered by dictionary.com for ‘mystery’ is: any truth that is unknowable except by divine revelation.  The secret to a successful, fulfilling marriage simply exists in

Day Fifteen:  We is Mine

Day Fifteen: We is Mine

No other union on earth holds the same binding agent as a marriage. Business partnerships, family bonds, college roommates – they hold important places in our lives…but they never occupy the ‘same space’ the way a spouse does. When we leave our family of origin for marriage, God creates a unique, intimate bond that

Day Thirteen:  From the Mouth the Heart Speaks

Day Thirteen: From the Mouth the Heart Speaks

This passage speaks volumes on the condition of a husband’s heart. A man who loves, respects, values, and tends his wife’s heart surely cares for his own in a really healthy way.
But if that’s true – and we know it is because it’s scriptural – then the converse is also true.

Day Twelve:  “No. Seriously. You first.”

Day Twelve: “No. Seriously. You first.”

Was there ever a moment in your relationship when you embraced this conversation? “You hang up first.”
“No – you.”
“No – I want you to go first.”
“But I want YOU to hang up before I do.”
Maybe that was just me. In fact, usually that conversation ended

Day Eleven: Love Beyond Dishpan Hands

Marriage Devotional Day 11:  Love Beyond Dishpan Hands

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.  Ephesians 5:25-27

Love your green beans. Love your job. Love your dog. But sacrifice for your wife. Lose yourself. Become last. In that way, your wife becomes all you pray for her and who God created her to be.
If a husband’s deepest need is respect, then a wife’s is surely to know she is loved. And not in a physical way or a romantic dinner kind of way or even in a ‘wow, you are really an amazing mom' way – but in a manner that communicates sacrifice. Waiving our ‘rights’ to think about ourselves first is counter-intuitive to human nature, but it’s a moment that reveals security and love to a wife’s heart.
This seems almost out of reach for a lot of men. We think doing the dishes, watching the kids, or bringing home a steady paycheck communicates to our spouses the place they hold in our hearts and lives. Helping a wife sense how loved she is goes beyond vacuum cleaners and auto bill pay.
Read Ephesians 5:21-33
The sacrifice depicted in this passage is a relinquishing of authority and position to help the bride know who she is and who she should become. Jesus released his kingship to communicate that. It was a most intimate relegation of who he was.
Love is communicated to a wife when her husband forsakes what is natural to him for her sake. In our marriage, it’s when I truly hear my wife. I shut off the television, my laptop, my phone… my inner dialogue…and tune in to her with intent and focus. And when I actually engage in the conversation, offering my point of view or honoring hers, nothing says ‘I love you’ better to her.
The love of a Savior provided security forever for the Bride of Christ. The same is true for your bride.

For her: Tell him what speaks ‘love’ to your heart – tangible moments that he’ll recognize – so he can be more mindful of those moments.

For him: She just gave you a target to aim for. Fire a shot – right now – and look for other opportunities this week to convey your love for her in a way that speaks to her.

For us: Consider reading ‘The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. It’s a great identifier of ways to tangibly communicate love for one another.

 

 

 

 

 

Used by permission.  Cornerstone Christian Fellowship

Day Ten:  When Submission Listens

Day Ten: When Submission Listens

One of the most hated and misunderstood passages in scripture regarding marriage also has the potential to unlock every dream you ever had for him, ladies!
Typically, a man’s deepest need is to feel respected. Honored. Heard. It’s the impetus for

Day Nine:  When Auto-Pilot Goes the Wrong Way

Day Nine: When Auto-Pilot Goes the Wrong Way

Auto-pilot. It’s designed so aviators can multi-task without crashing a metal tube full of passengers dependent on safe arrival. It allows pilots to focus on broader aspects of the flight, like weather monitoring, systems assessment, and the like. It can be a useful tool when

Day Eight:  Cross Fit Challenge

Day Eight: Cross Fit Challenge

Have you ever watched The Biggest Loser or Extreme Weight Loss? Or have you seen those “before and after” videos featuring people who lost a lot of weight after they committed to some workout program? How do they do it? How do they

Day Six:  Joy Juice

Day Six: Joy Juice

Every time I go to the farmer’s market, I am seduced by the nice, dark green kale—I’m a huge kale fan. Although these beautiful leaves are loaded with nutritional benefits, they can be somewhat bitter. So, my favorite way to prepare them is

Day Five:  A Sharp Spouse

Day Five: A Sharp Spouse

It’s no secret that other people influence our lives. Advertising & marketing companies have
long understood the importance of the influences that we exert on one another. Did you know

Day Four:  Living in Paradise

Day Four: Living in Paradise

In the beginning, couples work at their relationships—even though it doesn’t feel like work. They work hard to impress and please each other. They show consideration by being sensitive and courteous to each other. They spend hours

Day Three:  Creating Oneness in Marriage

Day Three: Creating Oneness in Marriage

When God created Adam, Eve, and marriage, He said, “the two are united into one”. His intention was to bring man and woman—two radically different people—together as one. On our wedding day, we became

Day Two:  Grace - Marital Super Glue

Day Two: Grace - Marital Super Glue

Day Two - Grace, Marital Super Glue

But God’s plan was seen from the beginning of creation, for ‘He made them male and female.’ ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together.”  Mark 10:6-9

When I was a young, my brothers introduced me to a product called Super Glue. They told me it was powerful—so strong you could hang a car in the air with just a few drops. I was skeptical, of course, so, they decided that we needed to test it out. Naively, I agreed to let them put just a few drops of the liquid glue on my thumb and index finger. Then they counted. It didn’t take me long to realize I’d been duped—my thumb and finger were stuck together and were not coming apart unless I tore some skin along with it.

In marriage, we are like my thumb and index finger—stuck together. Thankfully, all it took for me was a little acetone to get my finger and thumb unstuck. Unfortunately, it can be just as easy in marriage. There are many things that can tear a strong bond apart: stress, finances, infidelity, or one (or both) spouses feeling unimportant and unloved.

Even though we are individuals, as married couples we’ve got to stick together—in good times and bad. Everybody loses their temper or says hurtful things from time to time, so we need a little “Jesus Glue” or grace to hold us together. God loves us and freely offers grace daily which is how we are called to love one another as well.

Extending grace is showing each other the Bible’s definition of love: Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. Love rejoices in truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love never fails! (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 CEV).

Extending grace to one another—even when life is busy and hard— is a big part of being able

to stick together in the midst of trials. Extending grace means to silence your words over a few annoyances. It means you forget to throw that old mistake in their face during an argument. It means resolving quietly to not react to a situation or comment that annoyed you so that the other person never even realizes it bothered you. It’s important to make sure you have grace on hand at all times. It’s is the super glue that holds a marriage together.

For her: What is one way you can offer grace to your spouse? How can you show him that you are going to “stick with him!”?

For him: What things can you implement in your marriage that will help you stick together like glue?

For us: Discuss one thing that you can do in the coming week that will glue your relationship together into an unbreakable bond. Have a date night, plan a weekend get-a-way, or do a Bible study together. Make an effort this week to re-apply the glue of grace, thoughtfulness, and physical touch—a sure way to keep you sticking together!






Used by permission.  Cornerstone Christian Fellowship

Day One - Happily Annoyed

Day One - Happily Annoyed

Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.
Philippians 2:4


Most of the stories we heard as a child ended with: “…and they lived happily ever after.” It’s the stuff fairytales are made of, and it’s also the hope of every couple on their wedding day. You think you are going to be nothing but happy, but sometime later you find yourself thinking...

You're Invited

You're Invited

Marriage is one of the most rewarding relationships we encounter, but it can also be the most challenging. We have an extra resource for you to use during the 40 Day Marriage Challenge Series.  Monday through Saturday you'll see a new daily devotional for couples pop up right here. Each one contains scripture, marriage insights, and three thoughtful questions. Take advantage of this opportunity and, even now, consider asking God to prepare your hearts and minds for what He has for you in the coming weeks.  We'll see you right here on Monday morning.