Marriage Devotional Day Twenty - Ask Big

What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you? You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.  James 4:1-3

I remember my first day of Jr. High. Not only was I awkward and uncomfortable, I was nervous about not knowing how to do things that I was sure everyone else already knew how to do. The first challenge was to unlock my locker. I stood there in front of my locker with this little piece of paper that had three numbers on it. I struggled with the locker combination going back and forth with the three numbers, and I couldn’t figure it out. Finally, I gave up and went to class.

For the next three days, I kept trying with no luck and on top of that I had to make excuses why I was carrying all of my books everywhere I went. I didn’t want people to know I didn’t know how to open my locker. I was miserable. Finally, a teacher walking through the hallway saw me struggling and graciously offered to open my locker because “some of these lockers are temperamental.” I watched as he slowly dialed my combination and realized that I wasn’t going the full time around to the left to get to the second number. Done. I now knew how to open my locker.

Sometimes in our marriages we hit struggles, issues that we don’t know how to deal with, conflicts, and we try to find solutions by ourselves. We usually end up carrying a heavy load of isolation, frustration, and hopelessness.

Read James 4:1-3. James shows us that many times in life we don’t have what we want in our lives, especially when it comes to peace, love, and joy because we simply don’t ask God for it. In our marriages, it is essential to ask God for help in our conflicts/disagreements. We need to learn to ask God for big things, not only to help with the hard things but to unleash the great things

in our lives. Take time today to identify your disagreements/conflicts and ask God to show you how to unlock them.

For her: What are you asking God for on behalf of your husband?

For him: What are you asking God for on behalf of your wife?

For us: What are we asking God to do in our marriage this next month?

Used by permission.  Cornerstone Christian Fellowship