Marriage Devotional Day Nineteen - Losing Control

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.  Colossians 3:13

I hate to lose control in my life. I remember learning to ride my bike and my dad taking me to the top of a hill, putting me on the bike, and letting me go. For a couple of seconds, it felt amazing to be moving downhill on my own and feeling the freedom of no one holding on to me. Then I looked up and saw the tractor at the bottom of the hill approaching quickly. The exhilaration of the freedom of no one holding onto my bike turned into terror as I realize that I did not control what was about to happen next. The result of that crash was that I became self-protective and was reluctant to take risks.
One of the most difficult and riskiest things for us to do in marriages is to forgive our spouse. Forgiveness means wiping the slate clean and letting go of the right to hold against them the hurt they caused us. Part of forgiveness is losing control of the hurt that was caused, not knowing how it will turn out or if we will be hurt again.
Read Colossians 3:13. In a marriage where you may have been deeply wounded, it may be difficult to think that you can forgive each other and lose control of holding that thing against them. But Paul reminds us that we can take a risk in forgiving our spouses because Jesus showed us how to forgive without guarantees as He forgave us. Forgiving is hard work. It involves losing control of hurt, pain, offense, and maybe even self-protection, but what it unleashes is something truly amazing. Forgiveness allows us to get back on the bike and get our hopes up again because we are not driven by past mistakes and experiences but living the freedom of a clean slate.

For her: What is something specific that you need to forgive your husband for? What specifically do you need to ask your husband for forgiveness?

For him: What is something specific that you need to forgive your wife for? What specifically do you need to ask your wife for forgiveness?

For us: Read Ephesians 4:26. What can we put in place so that we do not go to bed angry with each other?






Used by permission.  Cornerstone Christian Fellowship