Marriage Devotional Day Seventeen - And the Winner Is...

Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win!  1 Corinthians 9:24

A couple of years ago the Golden State Warriors beat out 29 other teams to win their first NBA championship in 40 years. For the 2014-2015 season, they were the winners and the other teams were quite simply the losers. As an American icon once more bluntly said, “If you ain’t first, you are last.”
When you have a disagreement with your spouse, is this how you see the potential outcome – first or last? Does there have to be a winner and then, as a natural result, a loser in every argument?
Read I Cor. 9:24 which says, “only one gets the prize, so run the race to win the prize.” Too many times we approach disagreements with the attitude that we have to win, our point has to be proven, we have to get our way, the other person has to be shown their wrong. In marriages, I think we miss the true application of this verse. Many of us know that Biblically when we get married we become ONE in God’s eyes, but we sometimes find it difficult to live like that.
When conflict happens we try to separate what God has brought together. Paul is not directly talking about marriages in this verse, but if he was, wouldn’t he be saying – you two are now ONE, so run the race to win and only ONE gets the prize (happy marriage, fulfillment, respect, care, security). In marriage disagreements, it is impossible for one person to win and the other to lose because you are ONE.
This week as we dive into how we deal with disagreements in marriage we want to start with the truth that either both people in the marriage win or both lose, so run the race so that ONE wins and ONE gets the prize!

For her: When you have a disagreement with your husband what can you do to maintain the ONENESS of the relationship?
For him: When you have a disagreement with your wife what can you do to maintain the ONENESS of the relationship?
For us: How does your spouse’s response to disagreements in your marriage make you feel?






Used by permission.  Cornerstone Christian Fellowship