Day Two - Grace, Marital Super Glue
But God’s plan was seen from the beginning of creation, for ‘He made them male and female.’ ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one separate them, for God has joined them together.” Mark 10:6-9
When I was a young, my brothers introduced me to a product called Super Glue. They told me it was powerful—so strong you could hang a car in the air with just a few drops. I was skeptical, of course, so, they decided that we needed to test it out. Naively, I agreed to let them put just a few drops of the liquid glue on my thumb and index finger. Then they counted. It didn’t take me long to realize I’d been duped—my thumb and finger were stuck together and were not coming apart unless I tore some skin along with it.
In marriage, we are like my thumb and index finger—stuck together. Thankfully, all it took for me was a little acetone to get my finger and thumb unstuck. Unfortunately, it can be just as easy in marriage. There are many things that can tear a strong bond apart: stress, finances, infidelity, or one (or both) spouses feeling unimportant and unloved.
Even though we are individuals, as married couples we’ve got to stick together—in good times and bad. Everybody loses their temper or says hurtful things from time to time, so we need a little “Jesus Glue” or grace to hold us together. God loves us and freely offers grace daily which is how we are called to love one another as well.
Extending grace is showing each other the Bible’s definition of love: Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn’t selfish or quick tempered. It doesn’t keep a record of wrongs. Love rejoices in truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love never fails! (1 Corinthians 13:4-8 CEV).
Extending grace to one another—even when life is busy and hard— is a big part of being able
to stick together in the midst of trials. Extending grace means to silence your words over a few annoyances. It means you forget to throw that old mistake in their face during an argument. It means resolving quietly to not react to a situation or comment that annoyed you so that the other person never even realizes it bothered you. It’s important to make sure you have grace on hand at all times. It’s is the super glue that holds a marriage together.
For her: What is one way you can offer grace to your spouse? How can you show him that you are going to “stick with him!”?
For him: What things can you implement in your marriage that will help you stick together like glue?
For us: Discuss one thing that you can do in the coming week that will glue your relationship together into an unbreakable bond. Have a date night, plan a weekend get-a-way, or do a Bible study together. Make an effort this week to re-apply the glue of grace, thoughtfulness, and physical touch—a sure way to keep you sticking together!
Used by permission. Cornerstone Christian Fellowship