Marriage Devotional Day 39 - Protect Your Family and Your Eyes
One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.” Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her.
2 Samuel 11:2-4
Porn Stats that will blow your mind:
9 out of 10 boys are exposed to pornography before the age of 18.
The first exposure to pornography among men is 12 years old, on average.
71% of teens hide online behavior from their parents.
28% of 16-17 year olds have been unintentionally exposed to porn online.
6 out of 10 girls are exposed to pornography before the age of 18.
68% of young adult men and 18% of women use porn at least once every week.
Porn and Marriage:
68% of divorce cases involved one party meeting a new lover over the Internet.
56% of divorce cases involved one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.
Men are more than 543% more likely to look at porn than women. (covenanteyes.com)
70% of wives of sex addicts could be diagnosed with PTSD.
Those who have ever committed adultery are 218% more likely to look at porn
Stats from http://www.covenanteyes.com
It is no secret that pornography is a problem in our society. Because of the Internet, people have access to pornography at their fingertips. Our homes that are supposed to be a safe place for our families, and ourselves, are no longer safe. Children are getting exposed to it early in life.
As husbands and fathers, we need to protect our family and our home from these influences.
We first need to be aware that it is a problem. Hopefully as you read of the statistics above,
you were able to see how real the problem is. Maybe it is a struggle for you as well. If this is a struggle, it is impossible to have full intimacy with your spouse the way in which God intended it. It also diminishes the power of God in your life and will make it hard to hear His voice.
Today we want you to walk away with some practical tips for you or anyone in your house to be protected. For us to purify our hearts and/or keep our hearts pure, we need to guard our eyes. Matthew 6:22 says, “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light.”
Marriage Devotional Day 34 - Protect Your Family and Your Eyes, continued
The first thing that you need to do is secure your home Internet and family smartphones. Here are a few tools that you can use for both your computers and your smartphones:
X3watch (x3watch.com) Covenant Eyes: (covenanteyes.com)
You then need to realize that you can’t fight it alone. Trust that God is on your side, and he
will use people to help. Each one of these software systems allows you to pick accountability partners that will receive reports of your online activities. Make sure that you pick people
that you trust love you and your family as well as you know will call you if something looks suspicious. Often pornography usage is linked to how people deal with stress or pain. Let people ask you questions about your life and be honest with your response.
Ask yourself, “how far am I willing to go to make sure that my marriage is protected, and my children are protected?” This might mean that you make decisions like having your computers in the family rooms and places where you can watch your children’s Internet activities.
For her: Have a conversation with your husband and your children that reinforce the fact that they can come to you openly about anything. Pray for your husband.
For him: If pornography is a struggle for you, tell a trusted Christian man and install software on your computer and smartphone to guard your devices. If pornography is not a struggle for you, it would still be beneficial to install software on your computer and smartphone. Do everything that you can to protect your children.
For us: Read Psalm 101 together as a prayer over your home.
Used by permission. Cornerstone Christian Fellowship