Marriage Devotional Day 31 - Making Time for Business Time
“The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
What appointments have been on your calendar this week? Meetings at work? A dental cleaning? Children’s activities? What about making love to your spouse?
We are always so busy and being busy can make us neglect things that are important in our lives, like sex.
Talk about how many times a week you both desire sex and meet somewhere in the middle if the number isn’t the same. Maybe you can even specify which days of the week you’re committed to making it happen. If scheduling sex sounds too businesslike, think of it as scheduled spontaneity. Putting it on the calendar will give both of you something to prepare for and look forward to.
Maybe frequency isn’t an issue, but if sex has become a chore or just another item on your to-do list, how can you change it up? Consider alternating who initiates so that you’re both invested in your sex life.
Husbands, pursue your wives! Anticipate their needs: offer to pick up dinner, put the kids to bed or let her take a bubble bath. Also, consider the time of day when you initiate sex. If it’s 11 PM and you’re just getting started, your wife is tired from a long day and may not be interested. What about an early-morning rendezvous or right after the kids are in bed?
Wives, today’s verse might initially seem chauvinistic or all about your husband because of a man’s sexual needs. But you have sexual needs too! (And truly, they aren’t to not have sex.) Take some time to identify them and talk about them with your husband. Identify the activities or chores that might normally stop you from making time for sex and eliminate, delegate or (gasp!) just let them go until the morning.
It’s important not to neglect making love because it is so crucial to a marriage. Sex is more than just physical, it encompasses body, mind and spirit. When too much time goes by, it gives Satan an opportunity to try and build a wedge in your relationship which leads to isolation in your marriage. Have you ever noticed that you can get just plain annoyed with each other when a few days have passed since you were intimate? Often, having sex will fix the problem! The more you make time for sex, you just might find you’ll want to schedule even more of it! Get some time together on the calendar today!
For her: What do I need to do to help myself get in the mood for business time?
For him: What chores or errands can I take care of so that my wife will be more available for business time?
For us: How can we make sex more of a priority in our schedules?
Used by permission. Cornerstone Christian Fellowship